Does Your Story Feel Ordinary? Learn Why It’s so Worth Being Shared

“Never doubt your story has value, and merit, and by sharing it you could help someone else you have never met come to terms with something in their life. No one’s life story is boring.” — Holly Salsman

As a little girl, I was raised to believe that my life had inherent value and that I have unique gifts and talents, which I can use to fulfill my individual purpose. But, I was never told that my life’s story was important, interesting, and useful to share. I guess I always thought that my “Malala movie moment” was something that might come way later in life, if I had an experience worth sharing — something amazing — which defined my purpose and changed the world. But life never seems to be as glamorous as the heroines of the movies. After all, “this” led to “that”, then we went on a detour over “there”…

Our journeys are made up of many seemingly ordinary parts mixed in with some extraordinary experiences, but how do they all line up into one grand masterpiece?

Many women don’t know. And so we don’t share; thinking that our story hasn’t come yet, and that we are not ready or experienced enough for our voices to be heard. I was one of these women, until about one year into my first business, when I learned about something called the “Hero’s Journey”.

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Uncovering the Importance of Journey

I had been asked to speak at a conference for purpose-driven entrepreneurs. The conference team told me they were looking for a TED-style talk, and I was instantly stressed out; wondering how on earth I was going to share my life’s work in a compelling way that actually helped people. I brought up this worry to one of my friends, who is also a business coach, and she told me about the classic Hero’s Journey, a common circular template used throughout history for telling grand tales.

Even if you don’t remember it from English class, you have probably seen variations of the Hero’s Journey while watching your favorite movie. The story always involves a hero or heroine who goes on an epic adventure, encounters a major crisis, feels fear and discouragement, runs into helpers along the way, passes some sort of test, wins a victory, and finally, experiences a transformation. As my friend explained the Hero’s Journey, I realized my problem. I thought I only got one shot in life — one beginning, one story line, and one end — just one Hero’s Journey. But in reality, we all have more.

I have experienced meaningful adventures already, I am going through an adventure now, and I will have new adventures in my future. In fact, the only time that my Hero’s Journey will be told or remembered as one single unit will probably be at my funeral. Until then, I wanted to learn how to embrace my past and current journey to uncover their significance and to give them each a voice so they can impact others.

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I got off the phone, Googled the steps of the Hero’s Journey, and put them to the test. I wrote down at the top of a piece of paper, “Started my purpose-driven company,” then started working backwards. As I reflected on each stage, I wrote down the times of entering new seasons, feelings like frustration, fear, and discouragement, helpers I encountered along the way, little victories, and times of crisis.

By outlining all of my experiences in one place, I suddenly saw how they collectively led me toward transformations.

Some of them were “aha” moments and lessons learned, others were the stepping stones to start a brand new Hero’s Journey cycle. The beautiful timeline provided me not only with clarity about my own life’s experiences up until now, but also gave new meaning to my current season, and an anticipation for what might happen next!

For the first time, I was proud of my stories, aware of their significance, and more ready to share them with others. Although I was still nervous that the audience at the conference wouldn’t think my “TED Talk” was interesting, I went into it with a new sense of belief that my voice mattered. And it turns out, it did.

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Your Story Is Ready to Be Told

Each and every one of us are the Heroine of our own journey. But, we don’t need to put pressure on ourselves to make one big giant movie theme out of our whole lives. Instead, allow yourself the freedom of appreciating all the steps — all the fears you overcame, the fears you are learning to overcome now, and the fears you will overcome in the future. When you do this, you make room for more adventures and more transformations.

When you start to treat your life with the kind of respect it deserves, you will understand that you are worthy of sharing your stories with the world.

I hope you are encouraged to use the Hero’s Journey structure to see the significance of some of the experiences of your life, and let it give you the confidence to share your voice. To see that your stories have value, and that sharing them will help someone come to terms with something in their lives that might be similar. No one’s life is boring, including yours.

Photos by Tory Putnam

Kari Enge

Kari Enge believes that every single woman on the planet has beautiful talents, skills, and passions that when ignited through confidence and an understanding of purpose, have the power to transform our world. As a purpose-driven business strategist and brand story coach at Rank & File, she helps entrepreneurial women develop impactful, fulfilling, and financially sustainable businesses. When Kari is not working with her clients or editorial team, you will find her helping out local social entrepreneurs with their community initiatives and enjoying Norway’s beautiful nature. You can learn more about Kari’s work at